This guest post is by Autism Speaks staffer Kerry Magro, a motivational speaker, best-selling author, and one of the first TV talk show hosts who’s on the autism spectrum.You can learn more about Kerry on Facebook and Twitter.Your teenager is hanging out in the local piercing parlor.And your daughter can’t find her car keys whenever she’s walking out the door. You’ve considered splitting up, but you can’t afford to live on your own. Loving someone who has ADHD can make your life crazy if you don’t get a grip on it. The therapists tell you what to do, but your home is as wild as a college frat house. The thought patterns and behaviors of a person with ADHD never go away.A person with ADHD has an active thought process of options, possibilities, and scenarios the average person cannot even imagine. The rent is due, the electric bill is unpaid, and your checking account is overdrawn again.You’re exhausted from staying awake worrying all night. As a person with ADHD has to work through his challenges, you as his lover, parent, sibling or friend also have to learn coping skills to improve the situation.There were plenty hush-hush meetings but the curiosity of a child should not be underestimated.I remember that one of the issues an older aunt had was the fact that she had reduced her chances of finding a good man to marry her now that she had gotten pregnant.
Many of the people I dated had good intents, but they may not have understood some of the quirks that people on the spectrum like me may have. Ten years later as a 28-year-old adult, I embrace affection.When a child maintenance amount has already been worked out, the person named as the parent has to pay until they can provide evidence they’re not the parent.When the amount hasn’t been worked out, the service managing the case won’t work it out or ask for payment until the disagreement has been sorted out.It was not a question of was born within the confines of matrimony but rather, the children – as they came.At that time, one of my best friends was dating a man who had 2 children and we teased her about how her children would take after the children of his baby mama under law.You’ve thought of quitting your job, packing your bags, and running away. They are manageable, but that too, is a full-time challenge.